The Power of Self-Coaching: How to Bet on Yourself and Win
Over the past five years, I've worked with four different coaches, investing close to six figures in my personal and professional development. Coaching has been transformative for me, and I’m a firm believer in its value. But let’s be honest—not everyone has access to personal coaching, whether due to financial constraints or time. Even if they did, there’s a deeper truth: we all need to learn how to coach ourselves.
That’s often the hardest part—getting started. It's why I’ve created a workbook to help people begin their self-coaching journey. It’s designed to guide you through setting goals, reflecting on your progress, and building systems that create long-term success. You can return to it time and again, using it to stay aligned with your vision.
Coaching Yourself to Success
Success isn’t just about hard work—it’s about mindset. And, as we all know, your mindset can fluctuate. Some days you wake up feeling unstoppable, while other days, stress or fatigue can throw you off track. But here’s the thing: success doesn’t wait for the perfect mood. It comes from showing up consistently, even when things feel hard.
This is where self-coaching comes in. You have the power to control your emotions and maintain focus, even when motivation dips. By becoming your own coach, you can build the discipline needed to push through tough moments and stay committed to your goals. And this workbook will help you do just that.
Your Self-Coaching Workbook: A Step-by-Step Guide
This workbook is a tool designed to help you reflect, plan, and execute—because the future you want requires action today. Let’s dive into the exercises that will get you moving.
1. Reflect on Your Past Successes
Before looking ahead, take a moment to celebrate your wins. Reflecting on past achievements not only builds confidence but helps you identify the behaviors and habits that contributed to your success.
Success 1:
Success 2:
Success 3:
What habits or behaviors helped you achieve these successes? How can you apply them to your future goals?
2. Visualize Your Future Self
Imagine yourself six months from now. Close your eyes and really see every detail—how you look, feel, and live. What does this future version of you do differently? How do they approach life? Write down a vivid description of this future self, considering:
How do you look? (e.g., fitness, style, posture)
Where do you live? (e.g., the city, type of home, decor)
Who are you with? (e.g., relationships, family, mentors)
What habits do you practice consistently? (e.g., waking up early, meditating, exercising)
3. Write Your Perfect Day - Six Months from Now
Now that you’ve visualized your future self, describe what a perfect day in your life looks like six months from now. Be specific and detailed:
Morning: (e.g., What time do you wake up? What’s your morning routine like?)
Afternoon: (e.g., How do you spend your day? What work or hobbies do you focus on?)
Evening: (e.g., Who are you with? How do you wind down?)
4. Break Down the Actions to Achieve Your Perfect Day
Having a vision is important, but turning that vision into reality requires actionable steps. Break down your perfect day into daily or weekly actions that will move you closer to that life. For example:
Goal Example: "I want to be proficient in social media marketing and start a social media business."
Daily/Weekly Actions to Achieve This:
Read 6 books on social media strategies
Number of pages to read per day: ___
Book Titles: ___
Find a mentor in social media
Timeframe to find a mentor: ___
Daily LinkedIn search time: ___ minutes
Start a blog and post content regularly
Daily writing goal: ___ words/day
Content ideas: ___
Research time per week: ___ hours
5. Create Your Personal Action Plan
Using the steps from the example above, create your own action plan. Break down each goal into daily tasks that will keep you on track toward achieving your perfect day.
Goal 1:
Daily Action 1:
Daily Action 2:
Daily Action 3:
Goal 2:
Daily Action 1:
Daily Action 2:
Daily Action 3:
6. Set Accountability Checkpoints
Success doesn’t happen without regular reflection and adjustment. Set specific dates to check in on your progress:
Weekly Review Date:
Monthly Progress Check:
Six-Month Reflection Goal:
7. Affirmations & Motivations
Motivation is crucial to staying consistent. Write down three affirmations or motivations that will help you stay focused on your journey:
Affirmation 1:
Affirmation 2:
Affirmation 3:
8. Why Are You Betting on Yourself?
Dig deep into why achieving your goals is important to you. Understanding your "why" will keep you motivated during tough times. Reflect on:
Why is this important to me?
What resources or support do I need to succeed?
What obstacles might I face, and how can I overcome them?
How will I measure success?
What immediate actions can I take to move closer to my goals?
Who can hold me accountable for this goal?
How will achieving this goal improve my life or career?
Closing Thoughts
By using this workbook, you're taking the first step toward becoming your own coach. You're creating a sustainable system to bet on yourself, take control of your emotions, and build the life you envision. Remember, success doesn’t wait for the perfect moment or the perfect mood—it comes from showing up, staying committed, and working toward your future every single day.
Are you ready to start betting on yourself?